Posted: July 29th 2015
Had some interesting comments on the article
I wrote on ‘belief’ the other day.
He’s one from a parent (we’ll call him John).
“My father sucked the ambition out of me at a
young age by saying one in a million make it
as a pro so forget it (with good intentions –
not to build my hopes up) - so I subconsciously
thought ‘what's the point?’
What’s interesting is that I regularly get people
saying to me, ‘I bet you have to deal with some
pushy parents Frank’…
Yet I find when it comes to ambition the
opposite is more true.
Most parents are, like John’s Dad, keen not to
build their children’s hope up too much.
They want to be ‘realistic’.
As John says. this is clearly with good
Not wanting to set their children up for a big
This is what former Liverpool great Jamie
Carragher had to say on ‘making it’
“When I started at the National School in
Lilleshall, our coach told us: ‘There are 35 of
you here now, but only four or five are going
to make it.’ And he was right!
Now in my case, I always believed I was one
of those four or five. But there goes the biggest
problem – all players think they are going to
Summed up quite nicely by ‘Carra’.
We’re back to the power of BELIEF again.
So as parents, do you encourage them to ‘go for
it’ or not?
Well, let me ask you a question?
When your son is older, would you not want
your son to talk to a pretty girl he really
liked, just in case she blew him out?
Would you want him NOT to go for his dream
job, just in case he didn’t get it?
Fear of failure holds back so many people.
The stats only tell part of a story.
Out of the ones that don’t make it. How many
of them REALLY went for it?
How many of them just ‘thought’ it would
As opposed to BELIEVING it would (And then
DOING the things that would get them there)
Rather than focusing on ‘making it’ or not.
I’d rather focus on passion.
If you knew you couldn’t fail, what would
you LOVE to do?
If he’d LOVE to be the best footballer he
could be, above anything else, then why not
nurture that passion?
Best place to start with that this summer...?
TCSA's Summer Elite Week with former
Youth Boss Malcolm Cook:
PS - Got that Carragher quote from a
book called 'Steven Gerrard, Michael Owen
and Me'. The forward is written by Jamie
Carragher and is wort the price of the book
on its own to aspiring players and parents.
In the book, the author Mike Yates talks
about the BELIEF in ACTION that
Carragher had as he was coming through
as a kid at Liverpool...Bossing around 1st
team players. Telling them what to do,
where to go.
Carragher is not known as a player with
sublime talent. He's known as a player
who made the most of what he had.
Something which I encourage you to help
your son to become too.