Posted: October 03rd 2015

“My son is Football-Mad. 5 years old and his friends are

playing for local teams. Can you recommend a team to

join..? He’s desperate to play?”

 

Get asked this one a lot.

 

And a lot of parents get stressed about it.

 

Firstly, it’s difficult to recommend a ‘Club’ as such.

There are ‘good, bad and ugly’ local TEAMS…

 

It’s often hit and miss I’m afraid. Especially for specific

age-groups as a lot of individual teams are set up by

individuals looking to set up a team for their child

(which there is nothing wrong with btw) and then latch

onto a club, rather than a club that sets up a series of teams

with a common 'ethos' running through them all…

 

So how do you decide who to join then?

 

Same way you should decide to sign your child up for

ANY activity…

 

Do I trust the CHARACTER of these people who will

be looking after him?

 

Especially at local level, you cannot expect the coaches to have

all the necessary qualifications to help your son meet his FULL

potential. So be realistic.

 

Character is more important than Football Knowledge.

 

Are they fair? Do they want the best for everybody or are they there

to win at all costs (including potentially your son’s well-being

and happiness)

 

In my opinion. Local Football should be about making friends,

playing in your COMMUNITY…if you’re lucky enough to have 

decent people involved locally.

 

The number one skill you should look for is: Are they good with

kids? Do the kids respect the coach? Do they enjoy playing under

them?

 

Choose wisely.

 

It’s crazy that so many parents are desperate that they don’t want their

son to miss out on the ‘Rat Race’ that Junior League Football has

become in many cases…

 

4 and 5 year olds running around filled with fear of failure with

adults on all sides ‘baying for blood’.

 

What an introduction to the ‘beautiful game’.

 

Kids are pressurised to ‘get results’ before they’ve even

had the chance to develop  a fraction of the ‘tools’ that

will help them WIN, in the future…

 

As I mentioned the other day, reading Fergie’s book

‘Leading’ at the moment.  He mentioned a bloke called

Jimmy Reid who made a famous speech about ‘The Rat

Race’.

 

Looked it up, and what a belter it is…

 

“A rat race is for rats. We're not rats. We're human beings.

 Reject the insidious pressures in society that would blunt

your critical faculties to all that is happening around you,

 that would caution silence in the face of injustice lest you

 jeopardise your chances of promotion and self-

advancement. This is how it starts, and, before you know where

you are, you're a fully paid-up member of the rat pack. The price

 is too high.”

 

Nothing wrong with wanting your son to meet his potential though…

to be SUCCESSFUL, confident and HAPPY playing the game he

loves…

 

But to give him the best chance of that, he needs the ‘tools’ to

be able to play the game. The Skills. The Confidence. The Attitude.

 

(Otherwise it's 'sink or swim' with almost ANY team he may join...)

 

Where do you get those?

 

TCSA Inner Circle Membership

 

ENROL HERE - for a 1 Month Trial

 

Have a cracking weekend

 

Frankie

 

PS - Off to watch the Swans Youth Team v Arsenal 11am at

Landore. Looking forward to that.

 

Then watching the Swans 1st team tomorrow with my old girl

 

(Hope she doesn't try and talk to me all the way through the

game like she did last time ha ha. let me watch the game mun)