Posted: October 03rd 2015
“My son is Football-Mad. 5 years old and his friends are
playing for local teams. Can you recommend a team to
join..? He’s desperate to play?”
Get asked this one a lot.
And a lot of parents get stressed about it.
Firstly, it’s difficult to recommend a ‘Club’ as such.
There are ‘good, bad and ugly’ local TEAMS…
It’s often hit and miss I’m afraid. Especially for specific
age-groups as a lot of individual teams are set up by
individuals looking to set up a team for their child
(which there is nothing wrong with btw) and then latch
onto a club, rather than a club that sets up a series of teams
with a common 'ethos' running through them all…
So how do you decide who to join then?
Same way you should decide to sign your child up for
Do I trust the CHARACTER of these people who will
be looking after him?
Especially at local level, you cannot expect the coaches to have
all the necessary qualifications to help your son meet his FULL
potential. So be realistic.
Character is more important than Football Knowledge.
Are they fair? Do they want the best for everybody or are they there
to win at all costs (including potentially your son’s well-being
In my opinion. Local Football should be about making friends,
playing in your COMMUNITY…if you’re lucky enough to have
decent people involved locally.
The number one skill you should look for is: Are they good with
kids? Do the kids respect the coach? Do they enjoy playing under
It’s crazy that so many parents are desperate that they don’t want their
son to miss out on the ‘Rat Race’ that Junior League Football has
become in many cases…
4 and 5 year olds running around filled with fear of failure with
adults on all sides ‘baying for blood’.
What an introduction to the ‘beautiful game’.
Kids are pressurised to ‘get results’ before they’ve even
had the chance to develop a fraction of the ‘tools’ that
will help them WIN, in the future…
As I mentioned the other day, reading Fergie’s book
‘Leading’ at the moment. He mentioned a bloke called
Jimmy Reid who made a famous speech about ‘The Rat
Looked it up, and what a belter it is…
“A rat race is for rats. We're not rats. We're human beings.
Reject the insidious pressures in society that would blunt
your critical faculties to all that is happening around you,
that would caution silence in the face of injustice lest you
jeopardise your chances of promotion and self-
advancement. This is how it starts, and, before you know where
you are, you're a fully paid-up member of the rat pack. The price
is too high.”
Nothing wrong with wanting your son to meet his potential though…
to be SUCCESSFUL, confident and HAPPY playing the game he
But to give him the best chance of that, he needs the ‘tools’ to
be able to play the game. The Skills. The Confidence. The Attitude.
(Otherwise it's 'sink or swim' with almost ANY team he may join...)
Where do you get those?
TCSA Inner Circle Membership
Have a cracking weekend
PS - Off to watch the Swans Youth Team v Arsenal 11am at
Landore. Looking forward to that.
Then watching the Swans 1st team tomorrow with my old girl
(Hope she doesn't try and talk to me all the way through the
game like she did last time ha ha. let me watch the game mun)